happy to be miserable

Cross-posted to my Tumblr, where things are usually more Tumbly.

 

Happy to Be Miserable is a thoughtful essay about, among other things, how happy emotions are harder for people to express than negative emotions. Love, awe, gratitude and joy are more difficult to convey, the theory goes, because it leaves us vulnerable. We’re exposed because happiness is hooked to the future, which is of its own nature uncertain. Negativity can be immediately expressed, and so it scratches a different itch. Basically, while being happy is better for you in the long term, we’re all kinda lazy and like the short term release valve, the quick hit.

The word “community” is mentioned several times in the essay, and so I wanted to put in my own two cents, since how to build and maintain a positive community is a huge part of my life – both personally and professionally. 

Being snarky-funny on the internet is sort of what the intertubes are made of. It’s de rigeur. I wouldn’t have the internet any other way.

So, I try to take the long view. The concept of community means that we’re all here looking out for each other. Ain’t nobody here but us chickens, so let’s keep trying to reach out from a place of empathy. Keep top-of-mind that most of us are happy to be miserable, and accept each other in our moments of less-than-perfection. I don’t succeed at being happy all the time, because that ish is HARD WORK. The only way happy gets easier is practice. Practice not reacting in a frustrated way. Practice laughter. Practice going just a little further into the future.

Practice, practice, practice. Happy is contagious.

Relevant 

Crowdfunding: Slow Food International

I was lucky enough to be invited to Italy to speak to representatives from Slow Food chapters from the US, Germany, Switzerland, Italy, and more. It was a thrill to meet Carlo Petrini in person. This is a birds-eye view of crowdfunding tactics and strategies.

(Also, I got to go to Italy for my birthday! I ate the whole thing.)

SMART working

Here’s an acronym I love: SMART. Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time-bound

Specific: The basics of marketing mean that you know what, when, how, why, and where you’re looking for customers.

Measurable: can you measure this specificity? The best, most successful people I’ve seen are able to tie their successes back to ROI of some sort. The definition of ROI is hinged on specifics – what’s the story you’re trying to tell, and how does that matter to your bottom line?

Achievable & Realistic: these two are connected, but not quite the same. Achievable is an aspiration model – are you a Babe Ruth? Realistically, are you a AA pitcher?

Time-bound: I find this often in client work – a project should have time limits and you’re only protecting (and protected by) making sure a project has time limits.

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